My guy friends are constantly complaining about not meeting new girls, or not meeting enough new girls,or not meeting attractive girls. And to this I would first like to say "We go to Mizzou, and you can't meet new people? I meet new people on a weekly basis." Yes, I am 'that girl who knows everyone', I'm an RA, I love meeting new people, but I also go to events/movies by myself, and this puts me into lots of awkward situations/lame parties. But, for every three awkward experiences, you are guaranteed one awesome experience that everyone else will be jealous of. I am also extroverted, so I happen to unsympathetic to people who don't put themselves out there, but let's get back to the point of this post.
You can't go to the same parties with the same people every weekend and expect to be getting different results. My guy friends have said to me, "I really need you to bring girls to this party. I'm counting on you, I need to meet new girls." Sure, sometimes a mutual friend will bring a new girl to the group, but if she's attractive and not in a relationship, you will have to fight every other guy for her attention.
So what's the best way to break this hum-drum pattern? First, I would like to suggest going out and doing something you like? Go to that bookstore you haven't visited yet, soak up some sun at the park, etc. Find some passion and follow it. People are attracted to people with personalities, and you have a chance of meeting someone more similar to yourself doing something you love, or at least have interesting stories to tell other people. Next, take advantage of the free events/resources on campus. There are always interesting speakers,presenters, activities,etc. And the free factor always attracts more people.
And at the top of this list of interesting/free resources is THE REC. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, I present to you everything you have ever wanted in one complex. Chilling with friends? Check. Getting you swoll on? Check. Attractive people? Check.
My guy friends just don't seem to get it. Please read these standard conversations below:
Me: "Hey, let's do something this week"
Him: "Sure, as long as it's cheap!"
Me: "How about we go to the pool?"
Him: "No, I'm not feeling that. Sounds like a hassle"
Me: "No you don't understand. You're already on campus. It's free. AND ALL THE ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE ARE THERE IF YOU ARE THERE YOU ARE INSTANTLY ATTRACTIVE."
Him: "Is that how that works"
Me: "HEY DON'T ASK QUESTIONS. IT'S LIKE SANTA. JUST KEEP TAKING THE FREE PRESENTS, WHO CARES WHERE THEY CAME FROM"
Or...
Me: "I just got back from (insert name of fitness class). The instructor was wearing see-through pants and a pink thong and I was right behind her. Ew" (this happens all the time *eye roll*)
Him: "LOL. Doesn't sound too bad to me"
Me: "Well, we were doing (insert activity) so it was in my face, like, the whole time. Not really my thing"
Him: "Haha, Some of those classes actually sound really fun"
Me: "Yeah, and they are a good work out and not that expensive! You should come to some of them. There are lots of attractive girls, too"
Him: "Ah I don't know, I don't think it's for me"
Me; "C'mon, just try one"
Him: "It'll be weird"
Me: "HOW CAN YOU SAY THAT? HELP ME HELP YOU! I WILL WINGMAN YOU TO THE MOON!"
Ok, so not all of my conversations end in me yelling in all caps, but, gentlemen, seriously, there are some valuable resources here not being utilized. Just some food for thought. Help me help you, the best dating advice you are going to get is from other girls. Supply & demand, bro, supply and demand.
You can't go to the same parties with the same people every weekend and expect to be getting different results. My guy friends have said to me, "I really need you to bring girls to this party. I'm counting on you, I need to meet new girls." Sure, sometimes a mutual friend will bring a new girl to the group, but if she's attractive and not in a relationship, you will have to fight every other guy for her attention.
So what's the best way to break this hum-drum pattern? First, I would like to suggest going out and doing something you like? Go to that bookstore you haven't visited yet, soak up some sun at the park, etc. Find some passion and follow it. People are attracted to people with personalities, and you have a chance of meeting someone more similar to yourself doing something you love, or at least have interesting stories to tell other people. Next, take advantage of the free events/resources on campus. There are always interesting speakers,presenters, activities,etc. And the free factor always attracts more people.
And at the top of this list of interesting/free resources is THE REC. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, I present to you everything you have ever wanted in one complex. Chilling with friends? Check. Getting you swoll on? Check. Attractive people? Check.
My guy friends just don't seem to get it. Please read these standard conversations below:
Me: "Hey, let's do something this week"
Him: "Sure, as long as it's cheap!"
Me: "How about we go to the pool?"
Him: "No, I'm not feeling that. Sounds like a hassle"
Me: "No you don't understand. You're already on campus. It's free. AND ALL THE ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE ARE THERE IF YOU ARE THERE YOU ARE INSTANTLY ATTRACTIVE."
Him: "Is that how that works"
Me: "HEY DON'T ASK QUESTIONS. IT'S LIKE SANTA. JUST KEEP TAKING THE FREE PRESENTS, WHO CARES WHERE THEY CAME FROM"
Or...
Me: "I just got back from (insert name of fitness class). The instructor was wearing see-through pants and a pink thong and I was right behind her. Ew" (this happens all the time *eye roll*)
Him: "LOL. Doesn't sound too bad to me"
Me: "Well, we were doing (insert activity) so it was in my face, like, the whole time. Not really my thing"
Him: "Haha, Some of those classes actually sound really fun"
Me: "Yeah, and they are a good work out and not that expensive! You should come to some of them. There are lots of attractive girls, too"
Him: "Ah I don't know, I don't think it's for me"
Me; "C'mon, just try one"
Him: "It'll be weird"
Me: "HOW CAN YOU SAY THAT? HELP ME HELP YOU! I WILL WINGMAN YOU TO THE MOON!"
Ok, so not all of my conversations end in me yelling in all caps, but, gentlemen, seriously, there are some valuable resources here not being utilized. Just some food for thought. Help me help you, the best dating advice you are going to get is from other girls. Supply & demand, bro, supply and demand.