If you are looking for some interesting, if sometimes WTF-ish, perspective from a member of the opposite sex, I suggest you check out "The Rules Revisted" @ http://www.therulesrevisited.com/ . The author offers some interesting insight. It can be offensive, but there's still a grain of truth in some stuff. It's time to get rid of the entitled attitude women have adopted about dating (see: http://ashhkay.wordpress.com/2013/09/24/youre-not-a-plan-b-kind-of-girl/). I'm not saying either one of these blogs is right, I think there has to be some middle way that we can use when we approach dating. It shouldn't be a game, and it should be waiting in a tower for someone to save us.
In any encounter you have with another person, you are only 50% of the equation, sometimes less depending on the time or circumstances. Soc what can you do when things aren't going your way? Learn from the experience: What works for you? What's important to you in a relationship? What areas in your life need improvement? You can't change the other person, but you can work on being the best 50% that is possible for you. Participate in activities that make you happy and add to your experiences.
Also, a note on the friend zone: some guys get SO MAD when they get "friend zoned". Did they ever think that maybe their 50% just wasn't right for the girl's 50%? There's no shame in going on a couple dates or making a friendship and realizing that it's just not meant to be. Maybe, it's not the right time either. I've been in relationships that only reached their maturity after 4 years.
If you are feeling really down and that things will never go your way, I always like to remember the Chinese proverb about the red thread that connects people who are destined to meet. The thread my stretch and get tangled, but it will never break. This isn't about finding your soul mate or "The One", it's about meeting people who are going to help you grown through good (and sometimes bad) experiences.
Thanks for reading! Sorry for the lack of posts, inspiration can run short when not at school and working an office internship.
In any encounter you have with another person, you are only 50% of the equation, sometimes less depending on the time or circumstances. Soc what can you do when things aren't going your way? Learn from the experience: What works for you? What's important to you in a relationship? What areas in your life need improvement? You can't change the other person, but you can work on being the best 50% that is possible for you. Participate in activities that make you happy and add to your experiences.
Also, a note on the friend zone: some guys get SO MAD when they get "friend zoned". Did they ever think that maybe their 50% just wasn't right for the girl's 50%? There's no shame in going on a couple dates or making a friendship and realizing that it's just not meant to be. Maybe, it's not the right time either. I've been in relationships that only reached their maturity after 4 years.
If you are feeling really down and that things will never go your way, I always like to remember the Chinese proverb about the red thread that connects people who are destined to meet. The thread my stretch and get tangled, but it will never break. This isn't about finding your soul mate or "The One", it's about meeting people who are going to help you grown through good (and sometimes bad) experiences.
Thanks for reading! Sorry for the lack of posts, inspiration can run short when not at school and working an office internship.